Thursday, July 9, 2009

Adoption Myths and What God Says About Orphans and Their Care

God’s Promise …
"And if you give yourself to the hungry

And satisfy the desire of the afflicted,
Then your light will rise in darkness
And your gloom will become like midday.
"And the LORD will continually guide you,
And satisfy your desire in scorched places,
And give strength to your bones;
And you will be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water whose waters do not fail."
- Isaiah 58:10-11

There are at least 130 million orphans throughout the world.


"Speak up for those who cannot speak up for themselves"
Proverbs 31:8a


1. “Adoption costs too much.”
Reality: Depending on the circumstances, the cost of adoption ranges from nothing upwards of $30,000. But you may not know just how much assistance is available for parents who adopt. For example, you can take advantage of the federal adoption tax credit.
Also, grants for thousands of dollars are often available to families pursuing adoption. Other options may include adoption funding programs at your place of employment, reductions in fees for special needs children, and financial assistance from your church. All these make adoption affordable for almost anyone willing to pursue the options available. In the end, if the Lord is calling you to adopt, He will provide the finances for your child.


"...for in you the fatherless find compassion."
Proverbs 14:32.


2. “Isn't there a great chance that a child's birth parents will get a child back after the adoption?”
Reality: In modern adoption, laws have been established that nearly eliminate this possibility. It is practically unheard of in international adoption. In domestic adoption and adoption out of foster care, this possibility can be avoided by obtaining competent legal advice. This kind of counsel will ensure that all legal papers are signed before the child is placed.


"The King will reply, "I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me."
Matthew 25:40


3. “Adopted children probably have many emotional issues I won't know how to handle.”
Reality: It's true that some children who have had traumatic experiences may have an increased chance of having emotional and behavioral issues. But the truth is that any child, adopted or biological, may present these types of challenges. Any hurt child, whether adopted or biological, desperately needs a Christian family to help him navigate through his difficulties from a biblical perspective. You might feel a certain child is beyond your ability to handle, but if you remain available to how God might want to use you, He will equip you to raise any child you are obedient to bring into your home.

"For he will deliver the needy who cry out,
the afflicted who have no one to help.
He will take pity on the weak and the needy
and save the needy from death."
Psalm 72:12

4. “I may not be able to love an adopted child as I would a biological child.”
Reality: While many people fear this very thing before adopting, it is difficult to find parents who actually do struggle with this issue after they've adopted. According to research, 95 percent of adoptive parents say they experience a strong attachment to their child. In addition, this same study concluded that adopted adolescents are as deeply attached to their adoptive parents and extended family as their non-adopted siblings (Growing Up Adopted study, Search Institute, Minneapolis, 1994).

"He defends the cause of the fatherless..."
Deuteronomy 10:18

Please visit this website to learn more about how you can care for orphans:

http://www.hopefororphans.org/

God has spoken. He wants his people to care for children who have no one. This is what he has always wanted.




Aiden's Passport Picture

We just received Aiden's passport picture. This is the cutest passport picture I have ever seen! He is wearing his little brother (David's) shirt that my parents took to his orphanage! My mom is so happy as it was one of her favourite shirts that David had.

It sounds like his paper work is almost all in Bulgaria so hopefully in the next while the court session will take place and we will get a time to pick him up! I am hoping that he is home in August so that I can meet him before I head back to school on September 2nd. posted by Heather a very proud big sister!

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Keno Family News

Summer holidays are well under way now as school finished for our 4 youngest on June 25.

So what have we been up to so far this summer?

-the lake is a 5 minute drive so we have been there a few times
-mini-golf
-lots of gardening
-B and D go to a summer rec program-they both go 1 or 2 days per week
-A is working at the summer rec program this summer
-H is doing respite for a couple families and just landed a job for next summer so will be starting her training next week for that
-K has a lady very interested in buying her horse so is waiting on pins and needles right now
-visited a dairy farm/petting farm a couple times
-our babysitter/very good friend K graduated from high school
-went to the Canada Day parade-K was in the parade with his TaeKwonDo group
-A painted the kitchen, dining room, front entrance way and the top of the landing (chocolate brown, a deep red called "caliente" which means hot! and white trim)it looks awesome!
-we have been watching our veggies and berries grow before our eyes-we are picking raspberries, salmonberries, lettuce, radishes and turnips now
-we said goodbye to good friends who are moving way up to Fort St. John-we will miss them but are excited for them as they start a new adventure in the Great White North
-H has been asked to be a bridesmaid for her friend who is getting married in November

-our big news is that John got home late last night after working away for 35 days-our friend bought a wilderness lodge for ministry purposes a few years back and John went last summer for 7 weeks to help fix up the buildings and will probably spend 6-7 weeks up there again this summer
-so the next few days will be spent catching up on all his stories and everything that has been happening here

What's coming up in the next few weeks?

-our 25th Wedding Anniversary Party
(25 years!!! I can't believe we have been married for 25 years! Isn't it just old people who are married that long??)
-K and J go to summer camp for the first time (please don't get homesick! please please please!!!)
-will K horse sell? and if he does then what will her plans include for the rest of the summer and fall?

I hope you are enjoying a wonderful summer as well.

Friday, July 3, 2009

Afraid to Tell Your Family You Are Adopting??

Are any of you thinking of adopting? or adopting again? I have talked to so many people over the years who have been terribly afraid to tell their families and sometimes their friends of their decision to adopt. We have had some fear about telling certain people, but we have always felt that this is what God has asked us to do and that He does not give us a spirit of fear. Though I have to say some of the negative reactions we have experienced have been really hard to take.

If your relative or friend tell you of their intention to adopt, please stop and choose your words carefully. A great way to get to understand their decision is to ask them questions. Then they have a chance to calm you of your fears and they have a chance to talk about one of the most exciting decisions they have ever made. They may show you a side of adoption you have never considered.

Here is a post I found on the net about this subject:


Fears About Announcing Your Decision to Adopt

Posted by : Laura Christianson in Christian Adoption

When you announce your decision to adopt, you’ll experience a range of reactions from relatives and friends. I’ve talked with more than a few prospective adoptive parents who are afraid to announce their decision because they imagine their relatives will resent them for adopting.


In Carried Safely Home, Kristin Swick Wong pens her thoughts about making the adoption announcement:

"Vulnerability first surfaced as we ventured to talk about our fledgling adoption to family and friends. Telling people our plans to adopt a child did not elicit the kinds of unconditionally warm responses I remembered from announcing that I was pregnant.

Some people asked if we thought we would be able to love an adopted child as much as our birth children. Weren’t we worried about not knowing the baby’s background? How did we know if we would bond to us and we to him? Some told us they would not adopt because of the loss of control in raising a child with a troubled past and unknown genetic makeup. Everyone seemed to know disturbing stories about horrendous orphanages and their emotionally and physically wounded children."

What kind of reactions did you receive when you told relatives and friends about your plans to adopt?

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Adoption Update

We had a bit of adoption news today:

-we heard from the orphanage director that Aiden (Mitko) is doing well

-they are going to get his picture taken for his passport/citizenship papers and send us the copy we need to send to Canada Immigration

-the Hague Approval Letters are in Ottawa being authenticated and legalized so should be off to
Bulgaria shortly-once our adoption agency in Bulgaria receives them they can head off to get the court application for the final adoption order

-it definitely doesn't look like he will be home by mid-July but once court is done we will have a better idea

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Great Sermons on Adoption!

Here are some great sermons on adoption.

Will You Get Involved with Orphan Care?

Narrated by Shaohannah Chapman daughter of Steven Curtis Chapman, this video shares the facts about orphans and the need to care for them, as well as the hope that exists for the world's waiting children.
Filled with faces and pictures of children, let this stir you to get involved and take action to care for orphans.




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The Keno Family
Port Alberni, British Columbia, Canada
We are currently a family of 9 John and Mary Ellen, Heather, Andrea, Krista, Brent, Jennifer, Karl and David. Over the past 13 years God has called us to adopt 4 of our beautiful children and now he is calling us to adopt an eighth Child.
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